In fact, there was a big selling book called Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus which spelled out very clearly what makes men different from women.
These differences can cause so much confusion for people involved in a relationship. That may be a reason why so many more men end up with heart attacks… they tend to hold everything inside. While every person is different, women tend to be more emotional than men. Each person brings who they are, including their masculinity or femininity, and that helps balance out their relationship.
But while there are exceptions, it is equally true men tend to express their emotions differently than women. Each side needs to do the best they can to understand and deal with the opposite sex. Women are more prone to talk about what they are thinking and feeling, and to demonstrate how they are feeling with their tears, facial expressions, hand gestures, and body language.
Many women seem to be more comfortable figuring out how they feel by talking through it.
Men, generally speaking, tend to process their emotions inwardly. Some men are afraid of their emotions and keep them buried inside in order to protect themselves from looking weak. Little do they know, that most women would accept and understand and even appreciate! Men are also more physical, and tend to work out their emotions by finding solutions, and doing things.
The harm is when men keep stuffing all their feelings inside, letting them simmer and brew, and potentially eat away at them, eventually coming out as anger. There are tremendous benefits to getting your thoughts and emotions out in the open, in the context of a safe relationship, and not letting them destroy you.
There are differences between the genders. Each side needs to do the best they can to understand and deal with the opposite sex, rather than get frustrated about the differences. We ought to celebrate them. Just think, what if there were all women in the world, and no men? Or all men in the world, and no women? Ashlee asked: Is it truly love when you will do anything for the person you care about even when it hurts you in the process?
There are two ways to answer this question depending on how the person you love, loves you in return. First, if you are in a relationship that is mutually caring, supportive and you both work to put the others needs before your own, then real love would be willing to make sacrifices for the other. God showed us the ultimate example of this kind of love. However , if the one you think you love is demanding things that hurt you or violate your own value system, the answer is no, love should not hurt you. Love gives, it does not take.
Love heals, it does not hurt. Love builds up the other person, does not tear them down. Unfortunately, many stuck in selfish and destructive relationships have never had real love shown to them. Many of us are so hungry for attention or what we feel is love, we are willing to do anything, or put up with anything in order to get what we think is love. When you experience positive emotional cues from your partner, you feel loved and happy, and when you send positive emotional cues, your partner feels the same.
While a great deal of emphasis in our society is put on talking, if you can learn to listen in a way that makes another person feel valued and understood, you can build a deeper, stronger connection between you. But it will help you find common points of view that can help you to resolve conflict. How often have you been stressed and flown off the handle at your loved one and said or done something you later regretted?
Touch is a fundamental part of human existence. Studies on infants have shown the importance of regular, affectionate contact for brain development. Frequent, affectionate touch—holding hands, hugging, kissing—is equally important. As with so many other aspects of a healthy relationship, this can come down to how well you communicate your needs and intentions with your partner. Healthy relationships are built on compromise. Knowing what is truly important to your partner can go a long way towards building goodwill and an atmosphere of compromise.
Constantly giving to others at the expense of your own needs will only build resentment and anger.
If you approach your partner with the attitude that things have to be your way or else, it will be difficult to reach a compromise. Sometimes this attitude comes from not having your needs met while younger, or it could be years of accumulated resentment in the relationship reaching a boiling point.
Be respectful of the other person and their viewpoint. The goal is not to win but to maintain and strengthen the relationship. Make sure you are fighting fair. Keep the focus on the issue at hand and respect the other person.
Rather than looking to past conflicts or grudges and assigning blame, focus on what you can do in the here-and-now to solve the problem. Be willing to forgive. If tempers flare, take a break. Know when to let something go. It takes two people to keep an argument going.
If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on. Sometimes one partner may be struggling with an issue that stresses them, such as the death of a close family member.
Other events, like job loss or severe health problems, can affect both partners and make it difficult to relate to each other. You might have different ideas of managing finances or raising children. Different people cope with stress differently, and misunderstandings can rapidly turn to frustration and anger. Life stresses can make us short tempered. If you are coping with a lot of stress, it might seem easier to vent with your partner, and even feel safer to snap at them.
She could perceive him as having weak character and could lose respect for him. Men mess up their relationships in these three specific ways. London: Heinemann, You're a smart gal. Being with a man of integrity will not be like being with other men. Often, the partner who shoulders most of the emotional labor inadvertently becomes the middle man, according to Eisenhart.
Fighting like this might initially feel like a release, but it slowly poisons your relationship. Find other healthier ways to manage your stress, anger, and frustration. Trying to force a solution can cause even more problems. Every person works through problems and issues in their own way. Continuing to move forward together can get you through the rough spots. Look back to the early stages of your relationship.
Share the moments that brought the two of you together, examine the point at which you began to drift apart, and resolve how you can work together to rekindle that falling in love experience. Be open to change. Change is inevitable in life, and it will happen whether you go with it or fight it.
Flexibility is essential to adapt to the change that is always taking place in any relationship, and it allows you to grow together through both the good times and the bad. If you need outside help for your relationship, reach out together. Sometimes problems in a relationship can seem too complex or overwhelming for you to handle as a couple.
Couples therapy or talking together with a trusted friend or religious figure can help. Am I in a Healthy Relationship? Help with Relationships — Articles addressing common relationship problems, such as arguments and conflict, communication, and infidelity. Relate UK. Last updated: July Do things together that benefit others One the most powerful ways of staying close and connected is to jointly focus on something you and your partner value outside of the relationship.
Women and Men in Love and Anger: Emotions and their Metaphorical openly the distinction he makes between the logic of reason and the logic of emotion as . Love, acceptance, respect, to be desired, security, passion, are all things a woman may want in her relationship. What I want to focus on here is the specific aspect of emotional safety in relationships. She can communicate honestly, be herself, and feel emotionally safe.
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